Save Your Marriage, Save Your Child

I’m a teacher in a school that follows the IB curriculum. Yesterday, a group of 10th-grade girls told me about a boy in their class, Rocky, who often touches them on the back. When I looked into it, I found out that Rocky is struggling to focus on his studies and daily tasks. He seems lost and sometimes shows signs of depression. At times, he misbehaves in class, and other times, he withdraws and stays silent for hours without knowing why.

After talking to Rocky and his friends, I discovered that he’s dealing with behavioral issues. Digging deeper, I learned that he was abandoned by his mother at the age of 5, and his parents got divorced. His father moved to another city for work, so Rocky has been living with his grandparents. The lack of love and attention from his parents has taken a toll on his emotional well-being, leading to frustration, depression, and behavioral problems.

This is not just Rocky’s story; it’s a common issue affecting many children. Divorce rates, as reported by Forbes, are around 50 percent in the US and are increasing globally. Reasons include conflicts over money, property, lack of tolerance, commitment issues, unrealistic expectations, domestic violence, and gender inequality.

Children often become the victims of their parents’ decisions. They feel lonely, deprived of love, and struggle to focus on their studies and lives. Their mental health suffers, and their entire life can be disrupted. Some may even end up in negative environments, associating with the wrong people, developing addictions, and ruining their lives.

It’s crucial for couples to consider the impact on their children before deciding to divorce. Children are not at fault; they are the parents’ responsibility. Healthy communication is essential, with open discussions about feelings and sharing financial details to build trust. Commitment to the relationship is vital, and couples should learn to see the bigger picture. Forgiveness and a “let it go” attitude can help resolve issues, along with mutual respect and spending quality time together. Avoiding conflicts and taking small steps can make significant changes, preserving relationships and safeguarding the well-being of young ones.

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